Don’t expect average thinking people to understand your above average dreams. “Average thinking people” sounds kind of elitist of me to write, doesn’t it? Well, I can assure you my goal isn’t to come off as an elitist or even condescending.
Lord knows I’m average in a lot of ways. Good thing I married up and am a decent BS’er (which helped in the whole married up thing). The Urban Dictionary calls this phenomenon outkicking your coverage.
I’d like to think my dreams and aspirations aren’t average though. And if you are reading this, maybe yours aren’t either. But you need to mentally prepare yourself to face those who don’t believe in you or at least in your ideas.
Defining Your Above Average Dreams
So what is meant by above average dreams you ask? Well it can be any number of things to many different people. Today, I’m defining this as goals or ambitions to do virtually anything else besides being enslaved to a thankless job for a paycheck until you are 67 years old or beyond.
This doesn’t sound too far fetched does it? To me, it sounds downright practical. To others, I might as well be trying out for the NBA in my mid 30’s or perhaps aspiring to be on American Idol. I’d be on one those ridiculous audition rounds that everyone laughs at. I can hear Randy Jackson now, “Yeah that’s gonna be a no from me dawg.”
I never got the memo stating there is only one way to proceed through life. Apparently more people are catching on as well. Did you know by 2020, freelance workers are expected to make up 50% of the workforce? There are a lot of opportunities out there and the money doesn’t care who makes it.
Dreams and Practicality
Since I mentioned practicality earlier, let’s dive into it. What is achievable and practical is different for each of us. For example, I mentioned a couple of ridiculous (for me) things like the NBA and American Idol. Neither of these are happening for me. But there might be someone reading this right now that could be the next LeBron James or Carrie Underwood.
What if you want to retire from your day job at age 45 and live solely off stock dividends and rent checks from tenants? Is this practical? Well the answer is yes if you have enough money coming in to cover your expenses. Unless you can trim out a lot of waste from your budget, I wouldn’t give up your W-2 job or side hustles yet if the answer is no.
How about a young person fresh out of college dreaming to open their own gym and have hundreds of members paying monthly and yearly dues? This is an outstanding goal! However, this person might need to work their way up as a trainer first to build not only money, but a client base to potentially follow them when it is time to open the new gym.
Naysayers Of Above Average Dreams
I have to tell you, if you want to go against the grain and be different, you will run into people who tell you it can’t be done. You’ll never make it. You’ll run out of money. You aren’t good enough. Unfortunately, these naysayers can exist in your circle. The typical offenders include:
- Co Workers
The people who tell you that you can’t are typically those who haven’t figured a way out for themselves and have settled into the mundane. For instance, your parents worked for the same company for 30 years. By golly if they couldn’t figure out how to achieve their dreams how can YOU possibly do it? Or maybe some of your peers are just negative in general and don’t wish well for others.
Lucky for you, they don’t get to run your life. Even though some of them would love to.
Don’t waste your time trying to make them understand. Some will see the vision and some won’t. It isn’t your job to make others comfortable with your life decisions.
The Wrap Up
There is absolutely nothing wrong with working a full time job for an employer. Especially if you like
your work and are advancing at the desired pace. In fact, I’ve known nothing but this since graduating from college. However, my above average dream is to break away from this mode earlier than later and do my own thing. I want to take back ownership of my time. It will happen when the timing is a bit more practical.
And with this dream comes obstacles like the naysayers who try to discourage and cast self doubt. I’ve said it before but the one thing that makes this easier for me is I don’t care what others think. I care about feelings, but not the opinions of others.
When you can adapt to this mentality, it will make chasing your dreams just a little easier.