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Passing on a Promotion Opportunity

Promotion Opportunity

Hey there ya’ll, it’s Mrs. Defined Sight again and I came across quite the unique promotion situation the other day that really made me intrigued. I’ve been in my current position for about a year and a half, very happy and satisfied with what I get to do and who I get to work with. However, HR rolls a position out that would be the next level in my career, a work from home gig with occasional travel and it made wonder, “After starting a new job, how soon is too soon to apply for a promotion?” The following thoughts led me to the decision of why I decided not to apply for the promotion.

If I did not get the promotion, would I be hated for applying?

Most of the time when you apply for a job, it is private (your current boss does not know you applied for a job). However, when it’s within your current place of employment, but at the next level higher than the current department you are in, chances are, your bosses are going to know about it. I was encouraged by a coworker to apply as they stated they read the announcement, thought of me right away for the position and asked if my current boss showed me the job. I laughed and said NO! Of course my current boss didn’t inform me about the job nor discuss it with me. If I have an employee that is half decent, I don’t advertise to try and get rid of them, I try and retain them…duh. So, I know if I applied for a promotion within my company, it would not go over well with my bosses and I can’t help but fear if I applied and didn’t get the job, would I be treated differently after? Would it ruin the current, smooth relationship we have now? Would I get the rep as a wannabe ship jumper?

Current network vs. new network

I’m pretty sure that if I were to take a promotion in the next higher level department, I can kiss my current contacts I rely on for help goodbye. That would mean I would be starting over to try and develop my support network, which I have no idea who they are. I can’t help but wonder if they would think I am an idiot for reaching out as I should know everything about my new job day one? Also the current coworkers and partners I deal with, are tolerable. I get along great with some, I know when to work with or avoid those who choose to ride on emotional roller coasters and gained the nickname Switzerland which I’m pretty proud of. Not because I fit the typical Scandinavian profile, it’s because I’m a neutral party between 2 departments in my organization that do not get along whatsoever. So, to earn the respect of being a loyal, neutral person that is bridging both of these parties feels pretty cool as I heard that was a major complaint and quite dysfunctional before I came.

We want to have another kid

I’ve almost completed the year of growth: traveling, personal and professional development. It’s also almost been a year since my second miscarriage and we are getting ready to start trying for kid number 2 again. I think I would feel a little more stressed if I took on a promotion within my same company, and a few months later, had a new baby. There’s the added pressure of not only getting your new job down with a higher level of responsibility in a shortened amount of time, but also an expectation of training in someone to replace me while on maternity leave and trying to jump back in after I come back from leave.

Overall, wrong timing

The best timing of when I would apply for this job is in about 4 years. By then, I would consider myself an expert in my field, would be able to start that job without having to ask questions and overall feel confident in my ability to do the work independently. It also gives me time to get to know that level better, understand the networks and maybe give my boss a heads up that this is in my ‘long term career plans’ and it’s a goal we can work towards together. Since it requires occasional travel, waiting a few years when kid(s) are in school would work out better than having this line of work when they are small. This job announcement was an unexpected opportunity, caught me off-guard and made me realize that I am not following my own advice; if I ever want an interview, I better beef up my resume! Or at least keep it updated so it wouldn’t be to hard to update when another opportunity rolls around!

When have you passed up an opportunity due to wrong timing? Do you have any regrets about your decision?


  1. If you don’t believe it is the right time, then it isn’t the right time. The opposite is true too. It comes down to your thoughts. I believe that people will get what they think. If they think they can’t, then they can’t. Or if they think they can…

    As for me, I am content where I am currently. 😀
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    • Mrs Defined Sight

      September 13, 2017 at 8:47 pm

      The power of beliefs! I needed to be reminded of this more than ever these past few days…thank you!

  2. You made a good call. I made a similar decision in my previous job before I retired early. I was being groomed to become a Principal engineer and was very close to getting that status when I decided it wasn’t important to me as I didn’t want to be tied down for another 10 years or so. The position required a big commitment.

    Instead, I chose to retire early and enjoy my life rather than be a corporate slave for another 10 years.
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    • Mrs Defined Sight

      September 13, 2017 at 8:42 pm

      Thanks Mr. ATM for reaffirming I made a good call! It’s nice to hear these sides of the stories when so many others are pushing in the direction of something I am not 100% committed to or ready for yet.

  3. Hey there Mrs. Defined…. I can relate to this. Having turned down two promotion opportunities in the last three years myself, I sometimes have regrets. Thing is, I knew what I’d be stepping in to – a lot of politics and even crazier hours. Yes, the pay and bonus would’ve been great, but I feel if I keep doing what I’m doing the next opportunity will present itself at the right time.

    No regrets! If you turned it down, something wasn’t right.

    • Mrs Defined Sight

      September 13, 2017 at 8:39 pm

      Thanks so much for sharing that you too have turned down promotions even knowing clearly what you may be getting into. I feared a little of the unknown – and I really wasn’t looking for anything new and exciting in this avenue in my life. Yes, good attitude – keep waiting for the right opportunity at the right time!

  4. Thanks for sharing your reasoning for passing on the promotion opportunity, Mrs. Defined Sight! Your reasons sound very logical and seem to be based around the your lifestyle. Frankly, it’s refreshing for me to hear that you’re turning down an opportunity to earn more. I see so many people that are chasing money accept roles that they’re not even interested in. Although the opportunity does sound pretty swell, since you get to work from home, it sounds like you’re making to best choice for the long term.

    In regards to your question, I wished that I would’ve passed up on some promotions in the past. Earlier in my career, I think I jumped into roles too fast. I went through 3 roles in about 3.5 years at the last company I worked for. The type of industry I work in is very development orientated. They are constantly promoting career development and movement into new roles if you’re doing your current job well enough. Though more money is always nice, there are always trade-offs such as an increased work load and more stress. I’m trying to take it slower at the current company I work for.

    Thanks for sharing! Take care.
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    • Mrs Defined Sight

      September 13, 2017 at 8:36 pm

      First off – congrats on the page views! I enjoy the #s! Yes, I too wish I would have passed up one promotion years ago…I went from bottom of the totem pole to a position in management in 5 years! (what was I thinking indeed). I am definitely going to take this stage more slow in my life and enjoy the job I’m in for once!

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